Asking for divorce is never easy. Fortunately, there are things that you can do to make it go more smoothly. You should never threaten divorce until you are ready.
Take the time to plan things before starting a conversation about divorce or separation.
Organize all the documents you need
Gather all of your important documents and make copies of them. Some of these documents include:
- Tax returns
- Bank statements and investment statements
- Mortgage documents
- Credit card statements
- Titles and loan statements
- Insurance policies
Make sure to gather any other financial documents that you can think of.
Make sure you have the resources for after the divorce
You should save three months’ worth of financial resources before asking for a divorce. This will help provide security after the divorce process.
You should also check your credit to ensure you can purchase things during the divorce if your spouse cancels your credit cards.
Get support
Divorce is emotionally difficult. Seek out an emotional support system before asking for a divorce. It can be emotionally draining, and a good support system will help you cope.
Make sure you meet the legal requirements
You must be a legal resident of New York for at least one year before petitioning the court for a divorce. You should also check for any other legal requirements you need to fulfill.
Prepare yourself to remain calm
When you are ready to ask, it is important to be calm and polite. Statements said in anger can come back on you during the divorce proceedings.
Preparing in advance can help ease some of the burdens a divorce can cause.